A friend, told me a story today that made me feel sad and angry. She has just returned from camping in the South of France with her family. On, the campsite they met a family from the Netherlands, who had an eight year old son. The boy was playful, funny and enjoyed nothing more than making my friend’s three year old son laugh. The parents of the boy, told my friend that their son had been diagnosed as having ADHD and was on medication, but they only have to medicate him when he goes to school not in the holidays…WTF!?! Yes, you read that right…..just in case you missed it, here it is again in bold…..
They ONLY have to medicate their son when he goes to SCHOOL.
Hmmm…anyone else making the same connection as me here? I thought about my own son, who also happens to be eight, and realised if he was in the school system, he too, would be labelled with ADHD. What, I accept as normal boy behaviour:-
Not being able to keep still for longer than three minutes tops.
Making noises to go with every movement.
Climbing on everything (Including me).
Provoking the dog (Even though he has been warned a thousand times not too).
Provoking his older sister (even more dangerous than the dog!).
Would earn him the label of ADHA or ADD or PQRSTFFFF, okay, I just made the last one up, but you get what I am saying.
Maybe, just maybe it is not the children who have the problem, but the educational system. A system, that expects eight year old boys (and girls) to sit for hours at desks quietly and when they don’t, they are told there is something wrong with them and given drugs to “Mute” them. This is why, my son will NEVER, EVER go to school. I will not allow him to be made to feel ashamed of being who he is. If, schools need to exist, and some people feel they do, then at least have the common sense to understand basic child development like the staff do at the famous Democratic Summerhill school. At Summerhill, children are allowed to play until they are ready to learn and it works; the children always come to learning in the end and they stay learning, because they choose to be there rather than, being forced to sit down and shut up before they are developmentally ready.
I don’t believe your son has ADHD, I don’t believe my son has ADHD, I believe they are children and that’s enough.